Most women have been there before...we have had it in our relationship yet we're still there in it, even if we've mentally checked out. We compromise with ourselves, saying "well if he cheats again, next time, that's it.", "Well, if he hits me again, I'll leave.", "Well I know I have him in check, so at least he's coming home to me." Oh, how we've told that to ourselves, to our girlfriends, to our family. I think we say it so many times out loud, that maybe we'll actually believe it. It's a treacherous road, is it not?
So, when is our actual breaking point? When is it really enough? I know so many women, myself included, where we stay for years, waiting it out. We hope he'll change when he really won't, we hope he'll do something so awful so we'll of convinced ourselves that he's not worth it. The fact of the matter is, fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. I can promise myself and all of you, that people are usually repeat offenders if they have no reason to change. Reason being is because we stay. Usually, it's because we think they've convinced us they will stop or they'll try harder next time. But the moment we give that 3rd, 4th, 5th and 6th chance, is the second they're thinking about doing it again.
There's hardly ever an exception. If he hit you once, he'll hit you again. If he cheated on you with no regard, he'll do it again. Our intuition is strong enough to know the truth. Always follow that. Always.
Hey guys-so I think a scared a few of you because I received some very concerned emails regarding abuse hotlines and outreach programs. Let me get this clear-I've never been in an abusive relationship. I've only known people who have been. That being said, this article wasn't written specifically for people in physically abusive relationships. It was written for those who stay in relationships because they feel they can't do better. I hope this all makes sense to you amazingly sweet and endearing and caring yet dramatic readers. :) Love you all though and thank you for the concern!